Resources

Supporting your recovery beyond the therapy room

Recovery from sex addiction and betrayal trauma often requires more than outpatient care alone. Community support, peer connection, and continued learning all play a meaningful role in sustained healing. The resources on this page are provided as informational references — organizations, programs, recovery groups, and books that Willow Tree trusts and recommends. Inclusion here does not constitute formal endorsement or partnership. We encourage you to research each resource to determine what may be the right fit for you.

Community Organizations & Support Resources

Residential & Two Week Intensives

For individuals requiring residential or higher levels of care for compulsive sexual behavior, the following programs specialize in structured treatment:

Community-based recovery groups

Peer support groups providing accountability and connection alongside professional treatment.

San Francisco Bay Area

National

Professional organizations

Education, therapist directories, screening tools, and research related to sex addiction and betrayal trauma.

Recommended Reading

Addiction

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    Finding the Way Through

    Jeanne Vattuone & Timothy D. Stein Written by Willow Tree's own founders, this first-of-its-kind workbook guides individuals through sex and pornography addiction recovery with a built-in focus on partner betrayal sensitivity.

  • Facing the Shadows

    Patrick J. Carnes A foundational workbook by the leading pioneer in sex addiction treatment, guiding individuals through the first stages of recovery using Carnes' thirty-task model.

  • Ready to Heal

    Kelly McDaniel An exploration of love and relationship addiction in women, connecting early attachment wounds to destructive relational patterns and offering a clear path toward healthier intimacy.

  • Reconnection

    Dr. Michael Barta A neurobiologically grounded model for healing sexual addiction at its root, addressing the core disconnection in the brain and nervous system that drives compulsive sexual behavior.

  • TINSA

    Dr. Michael Barta Dr. Barta's original neurobiological framework for understanding and treating sex addiction through the lens of trauma-induced patterns in the brain.

Betrayal Trauma

  • Intimate Deception

    Dr. Sheri Keffer Drawing from both clinical expertise and personal experience of betrayal, Dr. Keffer helps partners understand how sexual betrayal affects mind, body, and spirit — and how to move toward healing.

  • The Betrayal Bind

    Michelle Mays An attachment-based guide to understanding why betrayal creates such intense fear and confusion, and a compassionate roadmap for healing — whether partners stay or leave.

  • Mending a Shattered Heart

    Stefanie Carnes A comprehensive Q&A guide for partners of sex addicts addressing the most pressing questions — from disclosure and boundaries to children and long-term recovery.

  • Your Sexually Addicted Spouse

    Barbara Steffens & Marsha Means Groundbreaking research establishing that partners of sex addicts are trauma victims — not codependents — combined with practical strategies for coping and healing.

Couples Recovery

  • Courageous Love

    Stefanie Carnes A step-by-step guide for couples rebuilding their relationship after betrayal, teaching both partners how to respond with compassion and work toward restored trust and intimacy.

  • Letters to a Sex Addict

    Wendy Conquest A unique collection of letters exploring betrayal from multiple perspectives, helping partners feel seen and helping addicts understand the depth of impact their behavior has on those they love. 

  • Letters from a Sex Addict: My Life Exposed

    This book is a collection of letters that reveal the raw and intimate details of the life of a sex addict. It depicts a journey that starts at a turning point: Getting caught! Moving from pure denial through the recovery process to acceptance and beyond. A must-read for anyone cheating or being cheated on.

  • Full Disclosure

    Dan Drake & Janice Caudill A structured workbook series guiding couples through the disclosure process with tools to move from truth-telling toward post-disclosure healing and relational repair.

  • Help Her Heal

    Carol Juergensen Sheets An empathy-focused workbook for addicts that teaches how to validate and support a betrayed partner's healing while maintaining their own recovery.

  • The Atlas of the Heart

    Brené Brown A research-based guide to the language of human emotion, helping individuals and couples build the emotional vocabulary and connection needed for meaningful relational repair.

Additional Reading

  • Gifts of Recovery
    Daily readings for individuals in recovery from sex & porn addiction. These meditations provide 12-Step insights, sobriety tools and tips, lessons for successful recovery, and partner sensitivity. They combine the clinical guidance of a seasoned therapist with the wisdom received by walking a recovery path.

  • A Light in the Dark

    Kenneth M. Adams A groundbreaking resource for adult children of sex addicts, addressing the intergenerational legacy of sexual shame and offering a path toward unburdening and healing.

  • I Shouldn't Feel This Way

    Dr. Alison Cook A practical three-step framework — name, frame, brave — for untangling guilt, difficult emotions, and self-sabotage, and moving forward with clarity and self-compassion.

  • Silently Seduced

    Kenneth M. Adams An exploration of covert emotional incest — when a parent makes a child their emotional partner — and the lasting impact this has on adult relationships, intimacy, and sexuality

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